My Lawyer is a Rear End--The Part Most Needed

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Jul. 25th, 2006 | 09:45 am
location: Swimming in the septic tank
mood: angry angry

     Let's see, fourteen months ago, right after my husband died I immediately sought legal counsel about his estate.  I got a lawyer's number from the phone book, made an appointment, sat in his office waiting over an hour.  Meanwhile, he got in a loud argument with his wife/secretary, kept me sitting in his inner office over another hour while he dickered on the phone about another client, evidently a drug pusher who had been arrested.  I finally left and called another lawyer.

     This time, I got a woman.  I felt a woman would be understanding and sympathetic.  Wrong.  I sat in her office listening to her blab about stuff not even related to me--, keep in mind this was immediately after Jack died, and I was in no mood to even be there, let alone listen to her big mouth--then I paid her in full after being reassured that my probate would take no longer than two months.  All she had to do was notify Jack's adult kids, have them sign a waiver, and that would be that.

     I patiently waited three months, after hearing nothing I called her.  Ugg.  She had forgotten all about me, and hadn't even started the ball rolling.   Okay, I guess it could happen to anyone.  I patiently waited three more months, after hearing nothing called again.

     "Uh, gee, Linda, we sent a letter out and haven't heard a word, uh, what was their addresses again?"

     Two months later, I called again.  The secretary told me all three kids had signed and everything should be finalized by the weekend.  What a relief.  I heard nothing so called again in two weeks.

     "Oh, gosh, I don't know, Linda, let's see here, did I say that?  Oh, no they haven't signed yet, what was their addresses again?"

     To make a long story short, I have never talked to the lawyer since that first appointment.  It's always been the secretary.  She has never once returned my calls.  When I call she is never in the office, or they just plain outright don't answer the phone.  [Caller i.d.?] 

     Legally, Jack's kids are entitled to 2/3ds of his half of everything I own and they are going after it.  That means that since I can't afford to give them the money I will be forced to sell the house, which isn't paid for yet.  By the time I give them their money, and pay off the mortgage it will leave me with nothing.  My only hope is for a merciful judge.  And my only hope to make him merciful is to have a lawyer who has my best interest at heart.  [I don't think so.]

     Jack and I were married 24 years.  In all that time his kids never visited him once.  Jack and I worked at our job all those years together.  I have worked just as hard as he did for the house.  Interestingly, his kids haven't called me once since their dad died.  

     I'm going to write another young adult.  In it, I'm doing a scene where my lawyer is downtown New York on a windy day and gets every stitch of her clothing blown off.  But for now, I'm going to eat a whole bag of peanut butter cookies.

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robinellen

From: [info]robinellen
Date: Jul. 25th, 2006 03:22 pm (UTC)
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Well now that stinks!!! It amazes me how cold people can be...I'm sorry your husband's kids are such butt-heads! I know one of my dad's good friends died recently, and there was a bit of a fight over his estate too -- of course, he was a multi-millionaire, but still...doesn't anyone care about the people anymore? Just to let you know, I care...I hope you find that lawyer who will care and do his/her best for you!

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inkjunkie/dumpyrain

From: [info]dumpyrain
Date: Jul. 27th, 2006 12:00 am (UTC)
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Thank you, Robin. You are very sweet. It really helps.

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Whimsy

From: [info]whimsybooks
Date: Jul. 25th, 2006 03:24 pm (UTC)
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Really I don't know what to say, but my thoughts and prayers are with you. That is way more than anyone should have to deal with.

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inkjunkie/dumpyrain

From: [info]dumpyrain
Date: Jul. 27th, 2006 12:00 am (UTC)
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Thanks, Emily. It helps knowing I have you guys.

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annecy-dit

From: [info]annecy_dit
Date: Jul. 25th, 2006 03:25 pm (UTC)
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I'm so sorry, I remember there being a bit of a problem when we've talked before and it sounds even worse now! What a terrible lawyer. I can't imagine how she stays in business, or what you're going to be doing now. You'll definitely be in my thoughts and prayers.

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inkjunkie/dumpyrain

From: [info]dumpyrain
Date: Jul. 27th, 2006 12:01 am (UTC)
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Thanks Holly. I'm sure it will work out. But I sure am glad to have you guys to vent to.

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Kelsey Johnson Defatte

From: [info]cocoskeeper
Date: Jul. 25th, 2006 03:30 pm (UTC)
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Aw, Linda... I'm so, so sorry! My biggest hugs for you, and my prayers go out for you!

Hang in there, girlfriend!

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inkjunkie/dumpyrain

From: [info]dumpyrain
Date: Jul. 27th, 2006 12:02 am (UTC)
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I'm hanging, Kels.

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Kelsey Johnson Defatte

From: [info]cocoskeeper
Date: Jul. 27th, 2006 12:31 am (UTC)
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I'm hangin' with ya!

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From: [info]queen_of_ocd
Date: Jul. 25th, 2006 03:33 pm (UTC)
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How awful!

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inkjunkie/dumpyrain

From: [info]dumpyrain
Date: Jul. 27th, 2006 12:03 am (UTC)
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Thanks. I just have to grin and bear it.

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Mindy Alyse

From: [info]mindyalyse
Date: Jul. 25th, 2006 04:25 pm (UTC)
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Sending hugs - I am so sorry!

I love the thought of getting back at the lawyer in a future book, LOL! Writing does give a back a certain amount of power. Still, that lawyer definitely does not deserve a penny of your money - in my opinion, she owes you for the pain and suffering her negligence caused during such an emotional time.

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inkjunkie/dumpyrain

From: [info]dumpyrain
Date: Jul. 27th, 2006 12:03 am (UTC)
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I agree. Love your rose.

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carmen16

From: [info]carmen16
Date: Jul. 25th, 2006 04:42 pm (UTC)
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Lawyers sure do earn their bad reputation. That really crappy. How unfair that the ungrateful out of touch kids are still entitled to anything! I hope it gets better for you! :)

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inkjunkie/dumpyrain

From: [info]dumpyrain
Date: Jul. 27th, 2006 12:04 am (UTC)
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Yeah, people should be able to leave whatever they have to who they want.

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jengt

From: [info]jengt
Date: Jul. 25th, 2006 05:00 pm (UTC)
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OMG!! You have a right to be more than angry! Not just with that incompetent lawyer, but the kids? I can't see how they have any right to anything. They didn't work for what you have. Ugh. They should be ashamed of themselves. Geez.

My thoughts are with you!

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inkjunkie/dumpyrain

From: [info]dumpyrain
Date: Jul. 27th, 2006 12:05 am (UTC)
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My feelings exactly. What goes around comes around. We'll see.

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twosmallbirds

From: [info]twosmallbirds
Date: Jul. 25th, 2006 05:01 pm (UTC)
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what a turd, I am so sorry she has been this inconsiderate!
hang in there and hope things work out the best they can!


(hug)

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inkjunkie/dumpyrain

From: [info]dumpyrain
Date: Jul. 27th, 2006 12:06 am (UTC)
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Thanks. I just wish I knew what I have to do. Move? Stay? ugg.

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From: [info]breckinwood
Date: Jul. 25th, 2006 05:27 pm (UTC)
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Hugs Linda. That is just awful. I hope the kids have a change of heart. It makes me so sad to see how rotten people can be.
It sounds like things are tight and you've got some real leeches hanging on to you and haven't much to work with. See if you can get a lawyer through the state. Some of them are EXCELLENT. You should NOT have to lose your home to those kids' greed. That's just unthinkable.

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inkjunkie/dumpyrain

From: [info]dumpyrain
Date: Jul. 27th, 2006 12:07 am (UTC)
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Thanks, that's probably what I will have to do. I just hope they have to appear in court. I want them to look me in the eye.

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medwriter

From: [info]medwriter
Date: Jul. 25th, 2006 05:49 pm (UTC)
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Hugs, Linda. I wish I had some good solid advice. This really stinks. You take care...keep writing.

Shirley

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inkjunkie/dumpyrain

From: [info]dumpyrain
Date: Jul. 27th, 2006 12:08 am (UTC)
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Writing is therapy. And so are all you guys. You've been great!

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kbaccellia

From: [info]kbaccellia
Date: Jul. 25th, 2006 06:31 pm (UTC)
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Hugs from me too. Death always seems to bring out the worst in people. I've seen this when my own grandmother died and her sister-in-law went upstairs during the wake and went through her things. I couldn't believe someone would be that low. Also right now I'm worried about the time when my husband's parents die. My husband is executor of their will but I've already heard that at least one of his sisters plans to sue for her 'rightful' part of her inheritance.

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inkjunkie/dumpyrain

From: [info]dumpyrain
Date: Jul. 27th, 2006 12:09 am (UTC)
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Oh, your husband is in for some unpleasant times. I hope things don't get ugly.

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kbaccellia

From: [info]kbaccellia
Date: Jul. 27th, 2006 12:53 am (UTC)
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Yeah, I know. At least I got my father-in-law thinking and he ended up going to a lawyer and putting a clause in his will that if any of his children do sue all legal fees will come out of their potion of the inheritance.

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marybethkelsey

From: [info]marybethkelsey
Date: Jul. 25th, 2006 06:43 pm (UTC)
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This sucks, Linda! I am really sorry, and wish there was something I could do to help.

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inkjunkie/dumpyrain

From: [info]dumpyrain
Date: Jul. 27th, 2006 12:10 am (UTC)
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Hi MB. Got any food?

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pixiechick_sw

From: [info]pixiechick_sw
Date: Jul. 25th, 2006 07:48 pm (UTC)
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Yikes!!! I hope things get worked out quuickly and smoothly!

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inkjunkie/dumpyrain

From: [info]dumpyrain
Date: Jul. 27th, 2006 12:11 am (UTC)
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Thanks. Ooh, I wish I had a table and flowers just like your icon. Gorgeous!

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Diana

From: [info]blueshoe
Date: Jul. 25th, 2006 09:33 pm (UTC)
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*hugs* I hope everything works out okay.

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inkjunkie/dumpyrain

From: [info]dumpyrain
Date: Jul. 27th, 2006 12:12 am (UTC)
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Me too. It will be hard for me to rent. I have two dogs and two cats.

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Kim

From: [info]boatprincess
Date: Jul. 25th, 2006 10:32 pm (UTC)
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sounds like your step kids are rear ends too! hope everything works out. i can't imagine after all those years together, and with you contributing money to the house as well, that any judge would leave you penniless. you will be in my prayers!

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inkjunkie/dumpyrain

From: [info]dumpyrain
Date: Jul. 27th, 2006 12:13 am (UTC)
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Thanks. You're so sweet. I hope I get a sympathetic judge.

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boreal_owl

From: [info]boreal_owl
Date: Jul. 25th, 2006 11:33 pm (UTC)
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Hugs, Linda. Wills bring out the worst in some people. Good for you for finding some writing material in all this.

Can you dump this lawyer and get a replacement--one who knows what he/she is doing?





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inkjunkie/dumpyrain

From: [info]dumpyrain
Date: Jul. 27th, 2006 12:14 am (UTC)
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Thanks, that's what I hope to do. Good lawyers are hard to find though

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Jackie

From: [info]fabulousfrock
Date: Jul. 26th, 2006 12:05 am (UTC)
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Eep! That is horrible. I hope it works out for you. I can't believe people would be so crummy as to drive you out of your home.

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inkjunkie/dumpyrain

From: [info]dumpyrain
Date: Jul. 27th, 2006 12:15 am (UTC)
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I know, especially since they won't really even get very much, after I pay the house off.
Thanks

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Newport2Newport

From: [info]newport2newport
Date: Jul. 26th, 2006 01:31 am (UTC)
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Oh, I'm so sorry for you in this situation. I wish there were more I could do to help, but I'll send thoughts of peace, courage, and strength, for sure.

((HUGS))

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inkjunkie/dumpyrain

From: [info]dumpyrain
Date: Jul. 27th, 2006 12:16 am (UTC)
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That's plenty. I love it.

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Lois Toureen

From: [info]pbwriter
Date: Jul. 26th, 2006 05:04 am (UTC)
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It always amazes me how selfish people become after someone dies. I have seen people fight over the smallest scrap, just to say they got it and you didn't.

Hugs, kiddo. And if I had the number of a great attorney, it would be coming your way!

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inkjunkie/dumpyrain

From: [info]dumpyrain
Date: Jul. 27th, 2006 12:17 am (UTC)
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Thanks, Lois. You know how it feels to lose a home. I still think about that sometimes.

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jkcarter

From: [info]jkcarter
Date: Jul. 26th, 2006 12:32 pm (UTC)
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Stupid STUPID people! I hate this for you. Sending lots of good thoughts your way!

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inkjunkie/dumpyrain

From: [info]dumpyrain
Date: Jul. 27th, 2006 12:18 am (UTC)
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Thanks. I caught them!

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From: [info]mamaip
Date: Aug. 2nd, 2006 10:57 pm (UTC)
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Hi LInda!
I finally got LJ account. Will you "friend" me?
Cathy

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inkjunkie/dumpyrain

From: [info]dumpyrain
Date: Aug. 3rd, 2006 12:36 am (UTC)
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Mama!! Glad to see you here! Of course I'll friend you. Have Kelsey introduce you and you'll get a bunch of friends.

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